8 Major Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy States of Deserving

2 Thessalonian 8:11 With this in mind, we constantly pray for you, that our God may make

you worthy of his calling, and that by his power he may bring to fruition your every desire for

goodness and your every deed prompted by faith.


As a believing woman of faith, I’ve heard so many speak about this concept of deserving. I’ve lived on the extreme end of feeling like I was unworthy. As I became of aware of this concept “Deserving” and how the lack of feeling like we deserve things holds u back from receiving, I made some mental shifts. I even found myself on the extreme end of this shift. Sometimes we must find ourselves on both side of the fence to find the happy medium. I began to ponder this question: When you are upset about an opportunity you think you should have gotten what does that say about you? I began to realize, There is a fine line between accepting that you are deserving of the many opportunities that God has for you and then feeling like you deserve things that are not called for you in divine timing. Are you living in a state of being or a state of wanting? Read on as I share the core 8 differences between living in a mindset of healthy state of deserving and operating from a place of prideful deserving.

Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy States of Deserving

I am Deserving: You are worthy to receive, you are able to receive

  1. This is a state of being.
  2. That means we humbly accept the goodness that God has promised us without feeling shameful or guilty about it.
  3. That means that you can hold your head up and be grateful that God has blessed you
  4. We all deserve greatness but it is greatness in God and defined by him.

I Deserved: This should have been mine and I should have gotten this

  1. This idea of deserve shows up in a past tense state as that belonged to me.
  2. You are in a state of wanting.
  3. You are claiming something that God has not presented to you as yours.
  4. You feel as if you were missing out or as if you were cheated.


“I am deserving” means we can have desires and we can safely express our desires to God? Yes, we can but above all we must find gratitude in the opportunities presented before us even when we feel we should have had a bigger part or higher status role. “I deserve” is not the state of deserve that we talk about from a spiritual and humble mindset. There is such a fine line with identifying yourself as being deserving of good and then also operating in such a flow that when you don’t get the things you thought you were you, don’t slip into a pity party of “that should have been mine” or “why wasn’t that for me when I wanted it so badly” or “I’m not good enough since I didn’t get”


Justina is a Pro MUA and Mindset and Success Coach. You can find her in her Facebook Group The Purposeful Pursuit to a Beautiful You. Join her group to get free access to the Now…That’s a Beautiful You 10-Day Mindset Series. Her Free Gift to all new members!!

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